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Time to do a pulse check on your transition-tude.
Transition-tude….
You know..
the attitude you have when you go through a transition. Yep, transition-tude.
We all have one.
Some of us whine, throw tantrums, others sulk, get angry, get going,
get in the driver’s seat, get busy,get bossy…you fill in the blanks.
We all have a “transition-tude” of choice. :0)
Whatever your default “transition-tude”, I want to check in and see how you are doing.
Are you in a firm stance of stubbornness? Or in surrender?
Hard to know?
OK! Think about it this way:
When in transition, we usually expend our energies in one of two ways.
We either 1. fight the process or 2. surrender to the process.
And trust me dear friends, I have experienced fight and surrender within the same nanosecond.
There are times when I try to surrender — embrace every moment;
knowing this time won’t last forever. On my best days, I invest my time and energy on the present; adding value to and learning from the people and opportunities that are in my life right now.
Then there are times when my feisty Caribbean, inner ninja comes out swingin’.
My conversations or thoughts spiral out of control and I fight to keep what little control I have left as I face hidden fears.
The fight is usually fueled by thoughts that dwell on better days gone by or rehearsing sad moments of the past. And —If I have a really bad transition day, I throw a pity party or a whine tasting for a party of one. ;0)
So enough about me…
What about your transition-tude? How is it?
An easy way to know, is to check how you are doing with control.
-Check your knuckles. Yep, check em. Go ahead.
Are they white from holding on for dear life? Are you still holding on to the
one little thing you can still control?
>>>Ouch! I know… dear one. That question hurts me too. The truth stings. ;0/ < <<
If you are still struggling to be in control or fighting the organic process of transition's purpose, you will tire from exhaustion. Your transition-tude will start to stink, even to you.
History leaves hints of how we usually 'Go' through transition. So take an inventory of how you've done in past and look at how you are doing right now.
I hope you will embrace the GRACE that is available to every transition-er.
Move from control, frustration, impatience, sabotage, whining and tantrums — and into surrender. You will learn that “trusting the process” isn’t a one time deal.
You will have to let go minute by minute, moment by moment – over and over again.
I hear you asking, “HOW do I surrender, Brenda?” “How do I trust?”
Well, the answer is different for everyone — but I can confidently say that you know when you aren’t surrendered and not trusting.
You know what you do, say, and think when you lack trust or surrender. So start to be aware of those tell tale signs and start to make small, mini acts of surrender. That’s a great place to start and there is great GRACE available to help you do just that.
As you start to realign your thoughts and your actions, your “transition -tude” will start to get better and your load lighter. Make a renewed decision today.
Here are two choices:
1. Ride the rollercoaster of stubbornness that leads to discontentment
–or–
2. Surrender, get back on the transition trail, and see where it leads.
Which will it be?
Friend — choose to Grow through transition daily and moment by moment! It’s your choice.
Make the right one today… and believe me when I say, you will have to make that choice over and over throughout your day.
I am excited for you as you Go and Grow through it!!
And hey, turn that frown upside down.
Checking my transition-tude too,
Brenda B;0)
